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In 1995 we decided that it might be better to divorce. During the procedure we found out that we actually still cared too much for each other, and decided to give us and our relationship another chance. Unfortunately we fell back in old customs and habits and in the end it did not work out.

Finally in 1999 it was over. We had an ok life, no fights, still fun, but there was something missing. We both had changed too much. It still was difficult to take the decision to divorce. Many people didn't understand (or didn't want to?). If we would not have been so sure about our selves we probably would have felt guilty, because obviously a divorce without fights was 'not done'. We even had the same lawyer.

Both of us are nowadays still happy that we did it the way we did. This way we were able to keep the friendship. And all together does this friendship exist now for 19 years. We stay in touch through mail and sometimes telephone. Whenever in Holland I visited him. I met his girlfriend, Petra. A very nice woman. We had a lot of contact when Pim (see the cat page) needed a new home, and also after he died. We just know: we are there for each other to help or just to talk if one of us needs that.

Nowadays Ton, Petra, and her daughter Myrna are living together. They moved to another place, so visiting them will take some more effort. We both are convinced that our friendship is worth that. We don't say for nothing 'forever friends' to each other. Also from this place I want to wish them lots of love and happiness!